If a person isn’t willing to be set apart in isolation and see that isolation as a gift to grow as an individual—and to use that time to confront their inner world, refine their character, and evolve beyond the patterns that once kept them stagnant in their own psychospiritual development—then they’ll never step into the light of their own refined identity—the version of themselves that’s been waiting on the other side of their healing, their self-honesty, and their willingness to evolve.

Some of us have been set apart in isolation for years and years in order to purge a literal lifetime of conditioning, generational wounding, suppressed inner truths, and internalized falsehoods that have kept our own psychospiritual growth arrested—and if someone isn’t willing to face themselves with that same level of depth, patience, and surrender, then they shouldn’t expect to carry the same kind of expanded perception, authentic direction, and mature character that comes from having done the real inner work.

And just because an individual has chosen to keep seeking external validation and approval—where they’ve compromised their own integrity, conscious evolution, and psychospiritual sovereignty just to fit in—or distracted themselves with mindless busyness, psychic junk food that neither expands their mind nor nourishes their growth, or performative belonging that keeps them accepted by the crowd but disconnected from their true self—and has never gone within to find out who they really are beyond the world’s noise, expectations, and all of its programming—doesn’t mean that those of us who’ve done the deep excavation are responsible for “humbling” ourselves on the altar of their stagnancy and refusal to evolve. Because it’s actually them who are inconveniencing others around them by trying to put a burden on people that is the weight of their own unprocessed inner work—work that only they can do, and work that no one else is responsible for carrying on their behalf.

And in all honesty, those of us who have been in the trenches for years—doing the deep soul work, sacrificing our internal sense of comfort for psychospiritual growth, and continuing to burn away everything inauthentic in order to embrace our most truest, clearest, and most soul-aligned expression of self—we’ve earned our peace. And we’re not handing it over just because someone else refused to earn theirs.

And it is super selfish for a person to expect others to carry the emotional labor of their avoided lessons and suppressed developmental work—especially when that same person is the one who has actively resisted their own growth, knowingly turned away from opportunities to heal, and made a conscious choice to remain comfortably stagnant in patterns that no longer serve them, all while others around them have been doing the real work to transform, evolve, and rise.